Sexual Rivalry and Dominance

In the ugly world of misogyny and misandry these days, it isn't so much about sex, as it is about possession. While it is not uncommon for sexual attractions to fall folly, the worst case scenario is when they become increasingly manipulative, especially when it intends to snatch another's partner away from right under their nose. While I can accept that sexual infidelity can be quite unwitting, it’s those inclined to one-upmanship that worry me, because that equates pretty much to hostage taking, basically undermining something intimate to cause anguish, or provoke you into an unwitting retaliation. 

In the real world of burdening responsibility, we seldom find the time to appreciate and reciprocate as much as we would like to. Hence, it’s only too easy for some opportunistic git to exploit the circumstances with alluring promises of something better. Perhaps it’s some sadistic need to feel superior, a personality disorder or maybe some form of frontal lobe damage. Either way, I can’t see such relationships as healthy in the outcome, no matter how fair and tolerant we may aspire ourselves to be, especially if a partner or friend is easily misled by such forays. There will always be that one, where even a friendly hello, is bound to end in some fiasco certain to haunt you for the rest of your days.

It’s that old carrot-on-a-stick soul-sucking allure of fondling and flattery to mask over what little actual interest in how you’re really doing. You are only a convenience they butter up with addictive amounts of sweet talk to serve their whims, only to watch you squirm at the slightest sign of withdrawal. Then comes the drama to emphasize on whatever misfortune can allure the desired level of sympathetic attention. This form of emotional blackmail may include self-inflicted injury, even the threat of suicide. Seemingly teetering on the borderline easily excuses them for deterring their target from any self-respecting focus; let alone attention to work, family or friends. Reciprocation is of course only by proxy to what their victim is receiving from the other end. When it finally comes down to intimate displays, in plain view of your partner, family or friends this is nothing short of harassment, with every intent to humiliate . If by this time you don’t realize you’re being sold up the Jordan, then you obviously deserve each other. No surprise that most German women these days prefer to be single mothers. Child rearing is time consuming enough without having to wet nurse an insecure adult.